Becoming a mother changes you on every level, whether you want it or not and whether you expected it or not (most moms didn’t)
Our societal constructs and our lack of understanding and openness about the experience of becoming a mother keep this potential trapped for many women, many years into their motherhood. Leaving us feel out of balance, depleted, frustrated, powerless and sometimes even ill. All the while motherhood is actually an acutely potent time for stepping into their power, changing beliefs and habits that don’t serve us. Our body is helping us to guide us towards that power, if we know how to listen to and interpret the neurological, physical, psychological, emotional and spiritual shifts that are happening.
I believe that the true source of power to put this world on a more sustainable and equitable track, sits with moms
With Matermorphosis I want to guide woman to tap into that innate power to lead, because I wholeheartedly believe that this power is what we need in this world right now. We need the authentic, moral efforts to lead us through all the issues and transform our world into a sustainable, equitable healthy and thriving place.
I envision a world where all woman that became mothers will be supported through her unique experience, so that her innate wisdom to lead herself, her children, her community and the world can evolve, and she can lead from the fullest of her potential
The Good Enough Mother
"This conversation explores how the changes that come with becoming a mother can create unique opportunities for growth and learning, and we discuss the importance of reclaiming our role as mothers as an asset rather than a liability in professional spaces."
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Matermorphosis is born in the dark hours of the night, nursing my 3rd son for the 3rd/4th/5th time. It wanted to be born through him. All while I was pregnant with him, I was pregnant with whispers that I couldn't hear clearly. I read, listened and I was energized but it didn't materialize. The power that came over me to birth him, unleashed a creative force
All through his 4th trimester this journey was born, bit by bit, night by night. In the day I was too sleep-deprived, and too busy getting an awake boy to sleep, and taking care of his brothers. But during all those long nightly hours, with his little sleeping body curled into mine, the ideas kept on flowing, like the milk he was drinking. I typed pages and pages on the little screen of my phone. On the night of his 3-month mark it was complete: the purpose, the name, its form, and its content. Then came the hard labor of postpartum, to grow it into something sustainable, something that can live independently of me. But I knew I needed to continue, it's his gift to the world, his gift to his mom, and to all of you, moms.
I have gone through the experience of becoming a mom 3 times now, and have experienced both the utter feeling of being lost, as well as the enormous freeing of potential this experience can be. Our first son was born in China, where I experienced that even the most beautiful birth can have some raw edges. I also completely fell for the 'your life hasn't changed, you just added a baby' narrative, trying to integrate him into a busy metropolitan life, and taking him on a 12 hr flight to go on a 'relaxed' camper tour through New Zealand at 12 weeks, because babies sleep most of the time anyway right!? Ehhm.. No.
I was utterly exhausted, moved continents back 'home', where I was forced to ask for help from family, because I really couldn't do it alone. The self-image of the 'independent strong woman' was brought to her knees. I navigated the territory of just 'listening to the experts' on babysleep, which felt so wrong and counterintuitive to what I wanted for him. I swung from really wanting to build my business fast and wide to maybe just wanting to stay at home, and all versions in between.
With our second my pregnancy coincided with stressful circumstances and he was born in the midst of Covid. We were trying to navigate taking care of two under 2 without external help because everything was locked down, whilst extremely sleep deprived. We just moved again and I hadn't found a community I resonated with.
With our third, albeit being another 'non sleeping baby', I feel calm and confident most of the time, because we have found our 'parenting intuition', defined our values, and I'm able to make sense of the motherhood experience through all of the wisdom shared in the Matresence space. I have experienced the sheer power and clarity that can arise from giving birth. I'm actively working on rewiring my nervous system to keep that calm and perspective, and I can be compassionate with myself at the many moments that I'm still messing up. Most of all, I have found moms I can lean on, learn from and share with.
I really feel that a transformation that had already started before having kids, has been sped up, deepened and intensified by matresence. It's real, it's raw and it's amazingly potent. And it's just the beginning.
I want to hear your experience mama, so we can evolve together and lead in this world!
With my own company TheoryY I helped organizations grow Trust-Based organizations, facilitating leaders and their teams in getting there. I'm a licensed facilitator of group processes, a licensed practitioner for the Leadership Circle and Positive Intelligence. I'm also mentored by Motherhood Sociologist Sophie Brock, PhD on the topic of Motherhood.
My career started in the capacity as a strategy consultant at McKinsey, where I consulted for the leadership team of several international corporates. I then moved on to join the Leadership Program of Alibaba at their headquaters in China. It is there that I realized that the way leadership is practiced in many of the bigger organizations is not aligned with my value system, and I decided to start my own TheoryY.
After having worked with 'leaders' for a decade now, I have realized that leadership is not a title, not a role. In fact, many of the 'leaders' I have worked with, are not leaders at all. I notice that the natural leaders of this world don’t realize the power that they (can) have. The natural leaders are us, moms. I'm thrilled to work with ambitious woman to uncover their leadership through their Matresence, and lead from their fullest potential.