Tuesday 12th of May | 20:00 CEST | live, online | 90 minutes | Free this time, normally €27
A Mother's Day gift from me to you.
There's a script running in your head. No one handed it to you. You never agreed to it. But it's been running the show since the day you became a mother.
This is ninety minutes with the script off.
Not a workshop. Not a masterclass. Not another thing to add to your list. A facilitated live experience for ambitious, intentional mothers who already read the books, already know the mental load is real, already tried the five tips. And who still wake up wondering why motherhood feels like this.
You've read enough. You've tried enough. This one is for hearing yourself again.
You know deep down which direction you want to go. You're just not sure you're allowed to want it.
That's not a you-problem, that's a script-problem.
There is an invisible motherhood script that tells you what a good mother feels, wants, chooses, sacrifices.
But being that "good mother" never meant being well as a mother. It meant being one other people could approve of. The neighbours, the school, your mother-in-law, the algorithm.
And you are tired of performing. Because what has it brought you, besides exhaustion?
What you actually want: to stop splitting yourself.
You want to be a mother who has the space to actually enjoy her children.
A woman whose work means something to her (in whatever form that takes).
A partner who feels like a partner, not a manager with a joint account.
A woman who is clear about who she is in all of this.
Not some of those on the same day. Not one at the expense of another. All of them, fully inhabited.
That isn't greedy. That isn't "you can have it all" in the brochure sense.
That's matrescence doing the work it was always going to do. Growing you into a woman the old script doesn't have room for. More integrated. More yours.
No one told you that was the invitation, because no one told you matrescence was a thing.
So you're calling it "a bit much," overwhelm, burnout, "a rough patch."
When what it actually is, is a new version of you trying to be born.
You haven't been given permission to live that fully yet. The permission isn't coming from the script, or the books, or your mother.
It's going to come from you.
A glimpse of the motherhood you haven't been given permission to want yet.
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You're going to experience what I see happening behind closed doors every time I work with mothers.
The immediate shift the moment you consciously make time for yourself.
The clarity that shows up when you're asked the questions that actually matter.
The affirmation you feel when you're listened to — really listened to — by other women.
You'll suddenly see, with sharp clarity, which rules of "the script" you've been following without choosing them.
A live experience on Zoom, facilitated by me. Landing together. Setting the context. Clear questions. Sharing in breakouts. Identifying your script.
Inside the live room, we move through three movements together.
The first is about landing. Head empty, shoulders loose, attention back. Most mothers don't realise how rarely they arrive somewhere fully.
The second is about hearing yourself. I'll guide you through a set of prompts, most of them done in pairs or small groups with other mothers. You get to speak and be listened to the way you usually listen to others. This isn't about performing good motherhood. And you share nothing you don't choose to share.
The third is about what you take with you. Into the rest of your week, into the school run, into whichever conversation with your partner you've been avoiding. You'll leave with one insight you wrote down yourself. That insight is usually smaller than you expected and larger than it looks.
That's why: no replay. Cameras on. You can join under an alias if you want. Ninety minutes that are truly for you (babies at the breast always welcome).
✅ You are somewhere between the woman you were pre-kids and the woman you're becoming.
✅ Your kids are somewhere between zero and ten.
✅ You run things at work, you run things at home, and lately both have been running you.
✅ You've read the books, followed the tips. And still... it doesn't feel the way you deep down know it could.
✅ You sense there is a version of motherhood where you stop choosing between your children, your work, your partner, and yourself. You don't know what it looks like yet.
✅ You want to feel it before you can believe it.
✅ You want to remember what real connection feels like.
❌ You want a toolkit with "the 10 best tips for more balance."
❌ You want to sit camera-off and listen to someone else talk.
❌ Your goal is to keep chasing the perfect picture.
❌ You only want to hear how well you're doing (and don't want any gentle nudges).
❌ There's nothing about your life as a mother you'd want to be different.
(See — more reasons to come than reasons not to 😉)
If you're even slightly on the fence, just come. Worst case, it cost you ninety minutes of your life being here instead of scrolling.
When: Tuesday 12 May, 20:00 to 21:30 CEST (Amsterdam time)
Where: Online, live on Zoom
Spots: Limited for intimacy.
Recording: No. If you come, you come. Being there live is the point.
Cost: Free for this first round. My Mother's Day gift to you.
Come as you are. Tired, put-together, messy bun-on-top, somewhere in between, it all belongs in this room.
Sign up for the waitinglist, I might be running this again
The thing that came up might have sounded like: I can't make that. I don't have time. I hope the kids will be asleep by then. Let me see what my partner has in his calendar.
I want you to notice that reaction. Not fight it. Just notice it.
Because the act of clearing ninety minutes for yourself, for something that resonated with you, is not a scheduling problem. It's the first rep of the work we're actually here to do together.
If you cannot advocate for yourself wanting these ninety minutes, the bigger things, the scarier things, the ones that actually rearrange your life, are going to stay out of reach too.
So if you feel resistance to clearing that time, treat the resistance itself as the invitation. Your partner can skip his padel class for once. You're allowed to hire a babysitter. You can finish that piece of work on Friday morning. And of course, if your baby wakes up, bring them. I love babies in these rooms.
What I don't love is a mother who always has to juggle all the balls, and never has ninety minutes that are just hers.
I am Babette Lockefeer. Matrescence and leadership expert, former McKinsey strategy consultant, founder of Matermorphosis, creator of Mother on MY Terms. Mother of three.
I've been facilitating groups for over a decade. Initially corporate teams, leadership teams. I love designing for magic, and watching it come to life in a group. There's something powerful about bringing people together — not just for connection, but for the kind of personal insight that only surfaces when you're sitting with others.
I started doing this work with mothers because the first version of my motherhood nearly broke me. Not because anything was really wrong. But because no one seemed to have a map of what was happening inside me, or how to navigate through it. Toward a motherhood that actually felt good. Over the last years I've built one, drawing heavily on my background in (personal) leadership development. This experience is a small piece of that. I'd love to have you on the inside.